Adventures in Potty Training

It strikes me as ironic that I am beginning potty training Baby at the same time that my grandmother has lost this kind of bodily awareness. She no longer seems aware of when she has to go or even if her adult diaper is wet or dry. This is sad and tragic to me. But praise Allah: He tells us that “some are sent back to a feeble age, so that they know nothing after having known much; For Allah is all knowing, all powerful.” So clearly, I can see this cyclical nature of the human life.

Anyway, so far as potty training goes. Baby used to use the potty at 4 months. Then I rushed to get the potty when she started to pee in the bath (perhaps I bumped her or hurt her in some way) We also started using disposable diapers around that time. She hadn’t used the potty again since then until now. She was quite resistant to even sitting on the potty. I finally got her to sit on it for very short periods of time, but nothing else. Then I got her a new potty. This potty is made for a toddler rather than an infant, and she seems quite comfortable sitting on it. She will sit and listen to stories being read. She actually peed in it twice now

I wanted to try a bare bottom potty training in 3 days method, but my husband seems to object to the child not wearing pants. I’m not sure why. We bought her some training pants, but they don’t seem to prevent mess. I guess it depends how much she pees. We got six in Potty Patty because they were the only company that had extra small. Then we got six in Green Sprouts even though their 18 month size starts at 24 pounds and Baby is not yet 20 pounds. The Green sprouts ones have a plastic liner on the inside, and she actually peed once today that I didn’t even realize she peed because her pants didn’t get wet. Every other time we’ve had puddles on the floor. I did the bare bottom method as much as possible in the morning when my husband wasn’t around, but one issue I have is that Baby wants to be outside every waking moment, and even I am not really comfortable taking her outside naked. I’m also finding it difficult to avoid social engagements. Anyway it is quite exhausting and tedious to do nothing other than watch your child to catch them if they start to pee and take them to the potty every 20 minutes. Hopefully we can get good results even if I’m not following it 100 percent.

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Not One of Those Bangladeshi Moms

Before Baby was born, I always swore that I was not going to be one of those Bangladeshi moms who was always chasing my children around with food in my hand trying to feed them. I had seen numerous Bangladeshi moms (and older sisters) trying to feed children, even as old as six from their hand while the child ran around playing. I thought to myself, children should sit while they are eating; it’s safer and a better habit.

Yeah. And now I’m one of those moms.

Toddlers Require A Lot of Time and Attention

The parenting veterans will tell you, once you get used to your baby’s schedule, that’s when they will suddenly up and change it on you. Prior to our trip to Bangladesh, Baby and I had a pretty good thing going. She  would go to bed relatively early, and I would drag out my sewing machine for a couple hours of work, pretty much every single evening. I was kind of looking forward to our trip to Bangladesh, so that I could have a bit of a vacation. But now I haven’t worked on my business www.etsy.com/shop/SisterCraftHijabs  pretty much at all in over a month, and I don’t see that I will be resuming it in the foreseeable future.

At first I thought that Baby was just having a hard time adjusting to the time change from here to Bangladesh (that measly hour for daylight savings hardly signifies). But well, now she just doesn’t want to go to bed. Tonight for example, I spent two hours singing, rocking, bouncing, and nursing her. I assumed she was tired. She seemed cranky. It hardly matters. I don’t feel like I get anything accomplished pretty much the whole day while she’s awake. She pretty much spends her day plunking books in my lap for me to read (repeatedly) and screaming at me if I don’t start reading them immediately. My husband was awoken this afternoon by baby screams because I was trying to toast popped rice on the stove, and, well, babies and stoves don’t mix too well. I didn’t want to burn the popped rice while I was reading her a book, nor did I want to burn the baby, so well, there you go, screaming. I also take her out for playgroups and walks and visiting people pretty much every day just so she doesn’t drive me crazy, but I really don’t feel like I’m accomplishing anything. I suppose that’s motherhood.

I started the business up again in 2015 as a way that I could stay home with her. Unfortunately, I didn’t anticipate that being home with her would also mean that I would be her caretaker 24/7 and therefore not really be able to work. Although my husband was encouraging me to get a part time job since before Baby was born, a few days ago when I suggested doing so (because I thought perhaps she’s old enough to be away from me a bit and the baby-free time might be good for me too) he said, “I don’t think that would be a good idea. That would be chaos with Baby.” Tacit appreciation for my role as stay-at-home mom. It doesn’t look like staying home with her will be a problem, so I guess I just have to embrace my role as mother.

Baby Vaccinations and Lab Work, A Torture For Mom

I just got back from my baby’s “one-year” appointment, which had been postponed due to our now currently postponed travel plans. She had to have two shots and some lab work. The problem is that the last 3 times she has gone to the doctor’s she remembers getting the needle last time. The minute she sees the exam table even if they just want her on it to measure her or whatever, she starts crying hysterically and clinging to me. They did finally give her the shots, and they asked me to hold her arms down.

She was still crying about the shots when we went next door for blood work. There, the lab worker’s assistant was absent, so I was asked to bear hug Baby into an outward facing position and hold her arm absolutely still while the blood was being drawn. Very difficult, as Baby wanted to hold onto and snuggle into Mommy. Oh well, finally got her home and sleeping peacefully. Poor Baby.

Busy With Motherhood/My First Etsy Listing

I’ve had so many good ideas for posts but not the time for even jotting down said ideas let alone actually writing them. And it’s kind of true what they say, even when you think you’ll remember an idea, you don’t always remember when you don’t write it down.

Baby has been keeping me busy/not so busy. Sometimes I’m sure it just looks to my husband like I’m just wandering aimlessly around the house carrying Baby or sitting with her. In reality, there are a great many things on my to do list, but I get at best a couple hours when Baby is sleeping to work on them (which is never enough time to do them all). Of course Baby has also been teething, which means the sleep is unpredictable.

I can’t even read or use the computer most of the time when she is awake. If I sit down with a book, within minutes, Baby is standing in front of me screaming at me because she wants. At the computer, she either wants to sit on my lap and chew on things she probably shouldn’t chew on or she stands next to me and screams at me (probably because she wants to chew on things she probably shouldn’t chew on). I know a lot of people would say I should just go about what I want to do and ignore her, but:

a) Have you ever tried to read while someone was screaming at you?

b) My husband is sleeping!

Despite all this, with a lot of help from my family, I finally got my business, Sister Craft Hijabs at www.etsy.com/shop/SisterCraftHijabs up and running (okay, maybe limping along). I made my first listing yesterday.

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A Purple Two-Piece Abaya/Prayer Dress with Orange roses. I tried it on, and I really loved it actually. It felt so comfortable to wear, and I love the color. It’s one of my favorite colors and not flashy. I was really tempted to keep it for myself. I took that as a good sign, and exercised some self-restraint (can’t run a successful business if I’m going to keep everything I make). If it doesn’t sell maybe I’ll just keep it or make another for myself.

Right now I only have 4 listings. I’ll have another tomorrow, inshallah I plan to have some cowl neck nursing tunics (I made one for myself) and skirts also.

I made a Facebook page to promote my business. Unfortunately it was a typo, so my Facebook page says Sister Craft HIjabs but the url is stillwww.facebook.com/SisterCraftHijabs.

With the limited time, I had the choice to either work on sewing or administrative (computer based) tasks. I guess you can tell which one I’m doing. I hope I’ll get some more posts written soon on all those great topics (I hope they were as great as I thought) that I was planning to write about.

A Birth Story in Honor of a Birth

We are supposed to go to my dad’s birthday party this afternoon. I’m not sure exactly how that happened given how my husband feels about celebrating birthdays. I mean we couldn’t even go to various baby’s birthday parties. Child’s birthday vs. adult birthday…hmm? It could have had something to do with the fact that the time they were planning it was around Baby’s bedtime, which I just casually mentioned and they went and contacted all the guests (not that there were many) and changed the time of the party just to accommodate Baby.

I still can’t quite understand the not celebrating birthdays thing, at least not for the reasons they give (I think I could understand other reasons). The most common answer I see online, which appears to be copied from a certain Muslim question answer site is:

The evidence in the Qur’aan and Sunnah indicates that celebrating birthdays is a kind of bid’ah or innovation in religion, which has no basis in the pure sharee’ah. It is not permitted to accept invitations to birthday celebrations, because this involves supporting and encouraging bid’ah.

This answer doesn’t even make sense to me, although apparently it does to a lot of people. They act like celebrating birthdays is a religious observance that people are imitating. To absolutely no one I know of is a birthday a religious observance. There are a few speakers/scholars who actually acknowledge this when they talk about celebrating birthdays/anniversaries/secular holidays. They say about the same thing that I said, which is that it wasn’t part of their culture, and the Prophet (s) not doing it doesn’t prove that it’s haram. Dr. Zakir Naik (although he disapproves of it in general) says that he cannot say it is haram because you cannot make something haram if it was not explicitly forbidden in either the Quran or sunnah. The general ruling is that things that are not religious observances are halal unless they were explicitly made haram, and in terms of religious observance everything that was not explicitly practiced is bid’ah and therefore haram. So my question is: how in the world does a child’s birthday celebration get to be a religious observance? I mean how does that even make sense to anyone? That’s kind of where you get people from foreign cultures who seem to interpret our culture in foreign ways. There are people who say that you have to get rulings from scholars familiar with your own culture for that reason, and they dislike the trend of getting information off the internet.

Anyway, here is the wonderful story of Baby’s birth in honor of her upcoming birthday:

I had false starts to my labor for about 3 days before my labor really started. I would have fairly regular contractions for 3 or 4 hours starting at 10 or 11 in the night. On the night before she was born this happened. I waited until about 3:00 in the morning to call my sister who was acting as my doula (If anyone is looking for a doula in the New York capital region they can contact me to get in touch with her. She is trained in aroma therapy, acupressure, and a variety of other comfort measures.). She arrived at my house around 4:00. We didn’t  call my husband. We let him come home from work at his usual time. My husband had not intended to be present at the birth of our child because he was very afraid of childbirth.

I dealt with contractions by vocalizing, “O, O, O” in  rhythm to my contractions. The contractions gradually increased in frequency and intensity throughout the day. I mostly lay on my side on my bed. My husband sat in the other room on the computer and just kind of did his regular thing, occasionally checking in with us. In the morning I had my sister call my midwives to tell them I would not be going to an appointment they had scheduled that day because I was in labor. They insisted to my sister that I agree to come in at 8:00 the next morning. She agreed on my behalf. This made me feel like they didn’t really believe I was in labor. I sipped mango flavored coconut water. In the afternoon, I asked for crackers and my husband came back with 5 different kinds. He also brought back an eggplant parm sub for my sister, and I sat at the kitchen table and ate part of that with her. I felt a lot of pressure in my butt the whole labor, and I felt nauseous. I also felt extremely hot during contractions.  My sister put sea bands on my wrists. I think those helped the nausea. She tells me they cut them off of me at the hospital because they were too tight, but I don’t remember.

My contractions never really got very regular. I was told to call the midwives when they were 5 minutes apart and lasting 1 minute.  My sister was recording the frequency of the contractions for me. She says I had some that were only lasting 30 seconds and were more than 10 minutes apart, and I had others that were less than a minute apart and lasting several minutes. She called the midwives and told them this, and, to my surprise (because I thought because my contractions were irregular that they would think I wasn’t really in labor), the midwife told my sister that I could come into the hospital any time I felt ready, and that it wasn’t urgent. I tried to hold off as long as possible because I was afraid I wouldn’t be very far along yet, but I was starting to feel restless, and also it was becoming difficult for me to even put my shoes and coat on in between contractions. I think I did not put my coat on and just held it in my arms. It was absolutely frigid outside, but I felt so hot that at first it felt good.

The only time I snapped at my husband during my labor was when I was standing near a wall, waiting to go out to the cars, and I started having a contractions. My husband, who hadn’t attended any childbirth classes, or really knew what to expect from labor, told me to sit down, and I said, “Leave me alone.”

I sat in the backseat of my sister’s car with my seat belt on surrounded by my coconut water, and my ride to the hospital was not any worse than labor at home. In my sister’s doula training and our childbirth class, they said for most women that is the worst part of labor for many women, and most refuse to sit or wear their seat belts. We live 45 minutes from the hospital. At the hospital, there is not much good parking situation. My sister parked in the emergency parking lot, and we had to walk to the door of the emergency room as that is the only entrance that is open at night. I had to pee ridiculously bad, and it was so cold, the walk from the car to the door seemed like forever.

Then we had to go up the elevator and into the birth center. They were waiting for us. A nurse was trying to explain to me how to put on some kind of band they wanted around me and the hospital gown, and she wanted a urine sample, and she was explaining to me how to do that, and I had to pee so bad I was hopping from foot to foot and having a contraction on top of that, so I was totally unable to take in any of her instructions (how come she couldn’t see that?). I complained that I was “leaking.” I meant urine because I had to pee so bad. She thought I meant amniotic fluid. It turns out it was both. I finally got into the bathroom and fumbled through the changing and urine sample, dropping several things on the floor and having difficulty retrieving them.

In the triage room the nurse had to do electronic monitoring, and she wanted to do a cervical exam. In some of my childbirth books and articles I had read that cervical exams are unnecessary and can increase your chance of infection. A skilled practitioner should know other ways of telling how far along you are. In our childbirth class, we were told that we have the right to decline them. I attempted to do so by stating that I did not want one and that I had read that they increased the chance of infection. The nurse insisted that she had to do it and that the chance of infection was only increased if your amniotic fluid was leaking (she proceeded to do a test to see if my amniotic fluid was leaking because I had said I was leaking, but she did the cervical exam anyway). I’m not sure I really actively consented. I really just didn’t feel up to arguing. That cervical exam was horrendous. I ended up having 3 of them, and they were the worst part of my labor. I was 6 cm dilated.

My mom and my step-father arrived while I was in triage, and they were there with me except during the cervical exam. I could hear them talking with my husband out in the hall.

All 7 of us (including my two assigned nurses) proceeded to my room. As soon as we entered the room, I went to check out the bathroom to see if it had a labor tub because some of the rooms only had showers. We were told on our hospital tour that if we intended to have a natural birth we should ask for a room with a labor tub. I observed that my room only had a shower, but I wasn’t inclined to do anything about it.

 

The nurse insisted on doing another cervical exam because I felt uncomfortable to lay on my back, which made her suspicious. I was 9 cm dilated. She was still asking me all those kind of check in paperwork kind of questions, things about my diet and what they could do to make my stay more comfortable. I said that strange men shouldn’t see me uncovered (meaning without my hijab). The only one who didn’t respect this was the pediatrician who came on duty the day we were discharged, a South Asian man; he just stood and stared at me while I was fumbling to get my hijab on. The midwife had asked to be called in when I reached 9 cm.

I had some misconceptions about the kind of care I would receive with my midwife. I guess I should have asked more questions and discussed things more during the prenatal care. I was under the assumption that the midwife would meet me at the hospital and stay with me the whole time I was laboring at the hospital and that she would be my only attendant.

Pretty much right after the 2nd cervical exam, the contractions got really really intense and close together. My mom and step-father and husband were still in the room. My perception is that the contractions got so intense that I was just screaming, totally out of  control. I remember really zoning into the tiles on the floor around my step-father’s feet and part of a curtain. When I said something about screaming sometime after Baby was born, my mom, my husband and my sister all informed me that I was not screaming but merely vocalizing. I felt like I was screaming. It was really intense.

The midwife told me to tell her when I felt the urge to push. I said I didn’t know. They said it would feel like I needed to poop, and I said it’s felt like that the whole time I’ve been in labor. I vomited, which is apparently a sign that you are getting near the pushing stage. They insisted on doing another cervical exam to make sure that my cervix was entirely out of the way before I could start pushing. I was a bit resentful of that.

I started pushing holding onto the top of the bed (it was a bed that could incline almost vertical) and crouching on the bed. I had read in a childbirth book about different birthing positions, and I wanted to give birth in a crouching position so that the baby could be born either on a towel or the bed and I could be the first one to touch her (but I didn’t speak to my midwife about that). The midwife decided that I was putting too much of the energy of the pushes into my arms in that position. She also decided that I was putting too much of my pushing into vocalizations. I had only had a few pushes in that position. Then she said something like,” We’ll get this baby out quicker if we put you on your back.” She proceeded to have me get on my back and the nurses hold the back of my knees. She had me push with all of my might. That was a revelation for me because I didn’t realize I was supposed to push that hard. I thought it was supposed to be more relaxed and controlled, that’s why I was channeling some of the energy into my breathing and vocalization. I was pushing so hard I couldn’t see anything during the pushing. It was like blackness. My sister said she worried that she was pushing me too hard because my face turned so red.  I felt so hot; the midwife allowed them to turn the fan on for me. Every contraction, they were yelling at me to push, push, push, push, push, just one more good push. She was coaching me to hold my breath and push so as not to waste any of the energy. My contractions would be fizzling out, and they’d still be yelling at me to push, and this bothered me in some way because I felt like they should be able to tell, but instead I had to tell them.

Anyway, they could see Baby’s head several contractions before I could. Then I could see quite a lot of wet, ratty looking black hair (she doesn’t have black hair; it was just wet, but we expected her to have black hair). The midwife was doing perineal massage with oil during the pushing, and I hated this. I told her to stop, and she told me she wasn’t doing anything, so then I realized the baby was actually coming. But my sister says she lied to me, and that the only time I acted uncomfortable or was saying stop was when she was touching me.

The midwife was at the foot of the bed. The nurses on either side of me, and my mom, husband and sister were all a little off to the left side on the foot of the bed. My stepfather had stepped behind a curtain when I took my pants off, and he stayed there the whole time. He apparently watched the clock and took note of the time of the birth.

We probably arrived at the hospital around 8:15 or so. My sister estimates that they took about 45 minutes in triage, and then Baby was born slightly before 11. It all felt very quick.

When she was born, they held her so that my husband could see her (I wouldn’t allow him to find out the sex ahead of time). Then they placed her all bloody on my chest and put a blanket over both of us. I had a strong feeling most of my pregnancy that she was a girl, but I didn’t even get to see her, and I didn’t want to refer to her by gender until I knew for sure, so I had to ask.

At some point they took her off of my chest and across the room to weigh her and prick her and do all of those things that they do, and I kept whining to my sister that I want her back. I was too weak to get out of the bed.

The placenta came out very easy and squishy. At some point, they had to give me a shot of pitocin because uterus was not contracting. The nurses came along to give me a catheter. They tried to help me to the bathroom, but they wouldn’t when I felt a little dizzy or lightheaded and too weak to stand on my own, so then they brought a bed pan, but I had no urge to go, so they had to put the catheter in. It wasn’t that bad. My grandmother had complained about them extensively, so I was afraid of it. The nurse then informed the other nurse that my uterus couldn’t shrink because my bladder was too full. You are supposed to go to the bathroom before you start the pushing stage, but the nurse told me it wouldn’t have made a difference because Baby came so quick, I wouldn’t have been able to.

They wanted to put me on an IV because they said I had lost a lot of blood. I promised to drink a lot of water and so avoided the IV. I have always had a pretty big phobia of IVs. They freak me out. I’m not really afraid of having blood drawn or getting needles, I just sometimes faint, and I feel sick and hot, and people interpret this as a fear response, but I realized that it is not fear; it is some kind of physical response.

They also kept offering me hemorrhoid medication and pain relievers, which puzzled me because I wasn’t feeling any kind of pain or discomfort at all. Everyone just seemed to assume that I was feeling bad. So far as the blood loss went, one of the nurses said to me, “You feel like someone who has lost a lot of blood,” and I thought to myself, not really. So far as feeling lightheaded when standing, I’ve felt worse in my ordinary life and been expected to carry on (or at least I thought I was), and I really didn’t feel bad at all. I did pass some rather large blood clots, and I did bleed for 10 weeks after Baby was born.

My husband mostly insisted on taking care of her in the hospital, and I was too weak to really get out of the bed the first day. She tried to breastfeed, and by the 2nd day something just clicked and she took to it, but I didn’t realize my milk had come in because a WIC peer counselor had told tried to describe what a letdown felt like, so I was expecting it to feel like something big and grand. My husband and I didn’t notice the pee pee diapers because they were mixed in with the poopy. A nurse saved us from supplemental feedings by digging through the trash to find them. My breast was engorged for the first couple of weeks, which made breastfeeding painful, but I didn’t realize at first that it was engorged because I didn’t know my milk had come in.

In the hospital, I was mostly just trying to learn how to take care of her. I really fell in love once we brought her home. I just gazed at her, and tears came into my eyes as I thought what an amazing thing Allah has created.

 

Teaching Again

Last night as I was drifting off to sleep, I was having thoughts as if I was still teaching at the school I used to teach at. I would really like to teach again, and I would like to teach at that school, despite some of my negative experiences. I came slightly more awake, and I was thinking should I try to return to teaching? I want to home school our daughter and be home with other babies. I used to have the thought that when she was a little bit older, maybe no longer nursing or something like that, that I might teacher until I had another baby, but now I can’t quite see my way to it.

I could see possibilities for how it might work, but I’m loving being with my baby so much. I feel like it’s better for her, so I would have to make sacrifices in that regard. If I waited until she was school age, I would have to make sacrifices in her education as I already know the school provides a mediocre education even in Islamic subjects, and that the administration has a much different educational philosophy and would expect her to spend the bulk of her time in her studies, so she just plain wouldn’t have as much time for being a kid and just exploring and playing.

I also had the strange thought that if I got good enough at my Bengali (I’m still studying) that I could teach English over there, but that’s not going to happen. My husband would think I was nuts. We spent such a long time waiting for his visa, and he doesn’t want to go back there. I was really just thinking that my daughter (when she is older) could have a bit of an International study abroad kind of experience, but I don’t think my husband would see the point of that as we wouldn’t be sending her to one of those expensive schools in Dhaka, and I doubt he thinks there’s anything too great about the schools in our area of Bangladesh.

Our family donated money to two schools in the area though. One was an Islamic girl’s school, and the other was an English medium school. I was invited to come visit the schools (and I really wanted to), but no one ever took me, and I wasn’t allowed to go out on my own due to my limited Bengali, the political situation, and general attitudes toward women and foreigners.

The Hat

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Yesterday I took Baby out to the store. About two minutes before we arrived at the store she started crying hysterically. I was really tempted to just pull the car over to the side of the road, but I thought she was sleepy starting out and she’s probably just lost her toy or got her hat down over her eyes, and she will be okay for two minutes. My mom had given her this fleece hat that snaps under the chin. It is a little big on her and can fall down over her eyes if you aren’t careful. When we got into the parking lot, i came around to Baby and found, to my horror, that she had managed to twist the hat around so that the snaps were behind her head instead of under her chin and that the back of the hat was firmly snapped onto her face.

Poor Baby! I wiped her tears and fussed over her. Needless to say, she was alright and was her cheery little self within a minute, but I found it disturbing, and I felt guilty that I hadn’t stopped the car. Thoughts of suffocation hazard flashed through my mind. Mothers trust your instincts when your baby doesn’t sound alright. I think I’ll be sticking to her ordinary black berry knit hat for the time being.

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Prayer for Mothers with Small Children

We took Baby to the masjid again on Friday. I decided to try out the prayer for mothers with small children even though the idea had bothered me last time. I guess it kind of bothered me too, Baby being the only child at the prayer. I think also there is an encouragement in Islam of abiding by the decisions of people put in authority over you.

It turned out to be a small room with a lot of toys and fairly loud playing small children, 12 mothers, and about 20 infants and toddlers. There was a TV fixed to the wall, showing the imam. I’ve seen opinions about watching the jumu’ah on a TV screen that it doesn’t really count as attending the jumu’ah, but I have to admit that this was probably a better environment for me and Baby. We felt more accepted, didn’t have to worry about offending anyone, and overall it was just less overwhelming. The size of the gathering is more what I feel comfortable with as the masjids in this area are just so large!

I still don’t really agree with the ideology behind it, but I did feel it was better for Baby to be with other children, so we will probably go there from now on. I do kind of wonder though whether the rest of the community is depriving themselves of the presence of these children. I wonder whether women were actually asked what they wanted or whether the male leadership just made these decisions. In my childless days I used to enjoy seeing the children in the masjid even if they were a distraction, and when I took Baby to the prayer, there were definitely ladies who enjoyed seeing her. I also wonder what it says for the future of our ummah that the mothers of small children made up such a small group at such a large masjid.

Ambitions of Mother

Sometimes I think I’m too ambitious as a mother. Well, not as a mother exactly. I mean, as a mother, I may sometimes be too ambitious about the number of non-mothering things I want to do.

Like yeah, that jacket I made for baby turned out really good, so of course I can make six other jackets for her cousins. Why don’t I start a business and sew hijabs to sell while I’m at it? And of course I should read Quran every day. I’ve been a bit negligent of that, and I should be learning new surahs, not just reviewing what I know. Also I haven’t been studying Bengali lately, and I have 3 library books and a whole pile of magazines to read.

I can work on these things in the hour or two after Baby goes to sleep… If she goes to sleep without any trouble…In between those ridiculously long nursing sessions she’s been doing lately…After I do those things that my husband asked me to do.

Hmm. Where did all the time go? You’re too tired now? You’d better do it tomorrow, definitely.